How this started
I studied psychology because I wanted to understand why smart, capable people, myself included, kept getting stuck in the same emotional loops no matter how much they "knew better." Halfway through my degree, I realized the gap wasn't information. Almost everyone I knew had already read the books. The real gap was translation: turning research into something you could actually use on a hard Tuesday.
Nae's Lab started as a place to close that gap, first for myself, then for the small group of friends who kept asking me to explain what I was learning in plain language. Four years later, it's a full practice: programs, writing, and talks, all built on the same premise. Growth is a skill, not a personality trait, and skills can be taught.
What I actually believe
I don't believe in overnight transformation, and I'm honestly suspicious of anyone who sells it. I believe in small, evidence-informed shifts, repeated consistently, with enough self-compassion built in that you don't quit in week two. Everything I build, a course, a journal entry, a talk, gets held to that standard before it goes out into the world.
Outside the work
I read more fiction than psychology books these days, on purpose. I'm based in Lagos, I take my Sunday mornings offline, and I still see my own therapist. Teaching this work has never meant being exempt from needing it myself.